Many men are capable of impregnating a woman but not too many can father a child.
Fatherhood is not a function of your muscles or manhood, it’s not about ‘broadchestedness’ or the subtle chauvinistic belief of the superiority of the masculine gendar.
Fatherhood is essentially a function of understanding and responsibility. Understanding makes an outstanding father; embracing the inherent responsibilities makes a honorable father.
Every man must understand that fatherhood is not a status but a ministry that requires a balance between gravity and care. You must care enough to be careful about what you do especially around your child(ren). Children naturally learn from their parents to emulate the good and the bad things they see them do, that’s why I strongly believe that God will judge every father for the unseeming behaviour of their wards like in the case of Eli in the book of 1 Samuel 2:12-29.
A man that matters is a role model worthy of emulation; he instills proper discipline in the home when and where necessary; He is there to monitor and educate the children rather than push the entire responsibility to his wife. He stands in the gap for his family before God and takes responsibility for any setback that family has.
Please understand that the family only reflects the calibre and quality of man that you are. Will your child(ren) call you a hero? Or will they describe you as a kind of man they never want to have around or be like?
A proper father works smart and diligently to provide for his home and support his wife and child(ren), he will also protect the name and honour of the family by maintaining biblical standards by example.
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8; KJV
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
He will also encourage the best in his wife and children at all times. He is God’s representative in the home and set’s the tone and direction for the family.
The man I’m talking about has a relationship with the word of God hence, he operates with wisdom and superior understanding.
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. Psalm 1:1-3
He is not moved by current negative results but subjects all to and subdue them by the WORD for a positive turnaround. Even in times of provocation, he is careful with his words lest he places irrevocable curses on his children rather, he blesses them and declares the will of God concerning them.
A good man sheweth favour, and lendeth: he will guide his affairs with discretion. Surely he shall not be moved for ever: the righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance. He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the Lord. Psalm 112:5-7
The ministry of fatherhood like any ministry requires constant learning and sensitivity to ensure continued relevance as the children themselves grow through various seasons and phases in life thus nurturing the greatness in them.
Fathers, support your wife in encouraging the reading culture in your child(ren) for a child who reads becomes an adult who thinks.Men, stop being passive in the affairs of the home, take your place and take charge of your life before it gets worse, pay attention to what God has placed in those children and help them discover their path. Don’t push or force them to live your own dream discarding the dream that God has placed on their inside.
God will help you!