You have complained, you have screamed, you have nagged, you have ranted, you have called pity-parties, and you have resorted to praying-LESS and probably have shed MORE tears …
You have seen your spouse as the uncooperative one and probably wished you married someone else instead.
You have carried more and more of the pain and emotional burden; your job/business/ministry seems to be at stake!
You have imagined how different things could/would be if only your spouse played his/her OWN PART!
You have compared your marriage with that of your friend(s), your school mate, colleague …
Now you detest going home, you even wished you were unmarried, sometimes wish you could just walk away! Hoped you would one day wake up to see that it was all a dream or just another story from the news but NO! This is REALLY happening to YOU!!!
What if you choose from here on …
Not to complain as much, not to scream as much, not to nag as much, not to rant as much, not to call a pity-party as such?
What if you decide to PRAY MORE since you have probably been praying less without “evidence” before now?
What if you agree with God to play YOUR OWN PART rather than wait for him/her to kick start you?
What if you obey your vows by loving NO MATTER WHAT… for richer or poorer…?
What if you begin to do more for him/her that he/she does not deserve knowing that YOU are nothing more than a product of GRACE anyways?
…That is when you are really in control! That is when you can enjoy God’s backing in fighting your battles. Only then will you be able to inspire and win back his or her love.
Never allow your spouse solely define or determine your happiness; that will be a tall order and too much of a burden for your spouse.
Never place your spouse before God; that will simply stray your life off course!
Never talk to anyone about your spouse more than you speak to God about him/her!
Never assume anything you are not clear about! Never act the way you want to but rather, act RIGHT!
Don’t sell your home to temper: A moment of silence in a moment of anger will save you a thousand moments of regrets.
I spell marriage as “MARr-iage” because it has the power to ruin just like it has to build; it’s all in your hands.
No one fights or reacts to genuine and consistent LOVE and RESPECT in the long run. The only way to win the Marriage Battles is via Unconditional Commitment to Love & Respect for your Spouse!
You are able to love and respect your spouse UNCONDITIONALLY, only to the extent to which you SUBMIT to God. There is NO OTHER way! I am sure you have tried every other way and failed; why not try a different approach? (The way you treat your spouse simply reflects how YOU TREAT GOD; end of).
It is not human to love or respect unconditionally; it is entirely God’s Way. If you ain’t willing to engage His Ways in your marriage then, I’m afraid that marriage is just a time bomb waiting to explode… THINK …Please think….. think please …
#StartNOW!# Ade Owolabi Says So!