Taking a cue from where we left off in the previous edition, I remember mentioning that there is no way marriage would ever survive if LOVE and RESPECT were conditional; one does not precede the other- this is God’s view! It is worth adding also that, there is nothing God has instructed or asked us to do, that is possible to be done outside of Him. No one is naturally capable of living a pleasing life to God except by His grace of course; and the required grace is contacted through personal knowledge of God.
Grace and peace be multiplied to you through the knowledge of God, and of Jesus our Lord, According as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him that has called us to glory and virtue;
(2 Peter2, 3 NKJV).
Woman, you are not capable of taking your place as the required helper to your husband on your own! Many have made decisions to be good wives and failed within the same week!
The secret to UNCONDITIONAL love, submission and every other virtue that God expects from us is in our walk with HIM and not in the incentives or encouragement we expect from our spouses. Those who wait to be shown love before they reciprocate in submission will struggle with unfaithfulness at various levels, besides, this idea give marriage a business outlook; this is not God’s idea.
A WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH God is the only way to being like God.
Any time you struggle with love, faith, submission… it is a sign that your walk with Him needs some help. Run to God, repair your faulty or broken altar, rub minds with God, invest time in the word, speak in unknown tongues (if you can), …the reward is remarkable! We often look in the wrong direction for help and support; you are your husband’s helper who should walk in close proximity with the Holy Spirit so as to be an effective vessel.
A helper who is frustrated in the course of fulfilling her ministry of help clearly needs a superior help in God; the God that has called her in the first instance!
The mere fact that man requires YOUR HELP as ordained by God should tell you that man is not always the Super Man he claims or assumes to be most of the time; he needs YOU and you shouldn’t wait till he acknowledged that truth. Many may not acknowledge their need for your support in a long while yet; it doesn’t overrule the fact that he requires it. Take the initiative without attacking his ago (as the Holy Spirit leads and empowers you) and see your man admire, respect and value you more in the long haul!